SIDNEY -- Sometimes I wonder when people take the time to write next year's resolutions.

"In the coming year I resolve to..." 

It all sounds good, but the task is usually sandwiched between the ham on Christmas and the celebration in the last hours of the year. Depending on your definition of celebrating, starting January 1 with goals is a little unrealistic. There are those who bring in the new year with such ferocity the first resolution is to see the sun by the crack of noon.

And those who have been writing their resolutions since before wrapping paper was discarded are likely organized enough they don't need an end-of-the-year warning to plan their coming days. They are the personalities whose weakness is not often found in organization and planning.

For the rest of us, what do we expect of the coming year, or any year for that matter? Do we aim high enough we are content with where we land if we miss the objective? Several years ago, I was given a poem, a collection of thoughts, called "Enough." In a short sentence, it is about having enough stress to be motivated to something better, enough love to be assured, enough blessing to look past the hard times, enough friends to hold up up when the hard times return...

I wonder if we over think the "task" of resolutions. It should be pie-in-the-sky, but also realistic. If your resolutions include keeping your bills paid are you willing to keep your accounts balanced and hustle at the job to earn the paycheck necessary? If the list includes a peaceful and happy home, are you willing to address why it is not happy and peaceful?

Be realistic but set your goals high. Being physically active is one place many of us could improve. Take a walk. Spend more time in the fitness center. Develop your own weights workout system at home. Walk a block each day this week and increase it next week, just enough. The same can be done with any other discipline.

Take each day as it is. Too often and with too many people stress is related to fears of what if that never come to reality. What if I can't walk as far as I want, bike as far as I think I can, or lift as much as I want to? What if I'm not liked for my skills or values I live by? The reality is in the cliche: if we knew how little people cared, we wouldn't care how little people knew (paraphrased). I was in a workout group years ago that lived by the motto "make each day out better than your last." If I were to follow, and offer, one resolution for the 2023 year, that would be it.

If we look at each experience as a win or a "well that didn't go as planned," instead of a win/loss our view on the world would be much different. Take the wins. Take the losses or defeats as challenges. The defeated person is the one who does not rise to the next adventure.